Monday, June 18, 2012

Shama Sikender On Boyfriend Management- Possessiveness & Letting Go


An Actors Tips on Jealousy , Possessiveness & Letting Go To Win The Game of LOVE

When the very lovely Shama Sikender declared her relationship with Alexx O’Nel, lots of admirers were heartbroken and Bombay’s set was surprised that a model and actor was giving-up her single image so openly, nonchalantly. 




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Thursday, June 7, 2012

Ramesh 'Sholay' Sippy's Wife & Ex Are Best Friends


Yours Mine & Ours

It was 


sometime ago that I remember reading about Sholay’s high-profile director’s second marriage to Kiran Juneja, a TV actress, after divorcing his first wife Geeta. This was Sippy's second marriage. Kiran, Ramesh and I became friends through my journey in Bombay and you can imagine my surprise when I received fervent invites to a movie preview to Rohan Sippy’s plays and later his wedding parties coming from Kiran. And she was genuinely involved and concerned at the attendance. 
Wasn’t the ‘step-mother’ supposed to be in the outhouse of awkwardness or were these fairy tale clichés? Is it possible to have a yours-mine and ours situation in the real world? Can the first and second wife ever be friends at all? Yes, Yes, yes, I discover in a revealing enlivening chat with Kiran and Ramesh Sippy.

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Saturday, June 2, 2012

Marrying Friendship & Work, Works For Me


Yes work can definitely be fun. & this I learnt when I realized that I've always pursued professions (yes multiple's) that engaged my heart and mind. So I've been passionate about work and more work. Yes I grew up on the Hindu philosophy of work is worship, that of the Bhagvad Gita that chronicles and philosophises the teachings of the Hindu God Krishna to Arjun. The take away which  was that nothing comes before duty and work is God etc. And so it’s always been work- work- work. 

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Monday, May 28, 2012

NARROWER LOVE CHOICES WITH AGE? NO SAY SALMAN KHAN & SHILPA SHETTY

Do Choices become narrower with a person growing older? 

Do we have to compromise and settle for the first half-decent person that comes along?

A close friend is constantly compromising on her romantic partner, short-selling herself in relationships and unable to find a steady fit. I realize this is because she is settling for second best, or maybe even third best, concerned at the age factor creeping on her.     
 - That as time goes by the choices may become fewer. So she goes for the first contender who might not be of her standard and it results in a relationship that is inadequate from both angles. 

He on the other hand, finds she is demanding  (because she is used to better), and she is constantly trying to improve him and guide him into being more than he is. Dissatisfaction and inadequacy results from an unequal fit.

If you look at Bollywood, going by even a Salman Khan, he only went from an older Aishwarya Rai to a more eclectic Katrina Kaif, and seems to be going strong with a great female following. One wouldn't exactly say he is without choices? Insecurity and fear bring with them imbalanced behavior  and you end up driving your suitors away. Instead, do what your doing and the right person will just amble into your life, hearth and heart! Sounds idealic? Just try it.....

Choices, I believe, may not become fewer as you grow older. What actually happens is we become more discerning as we grow as individuals and quite obviously we find fewer people who fit the bill. This panics us, and instead of realizing that it’s all about exclusivity we allow the first of the dregs that arrives into our personal space- into our lives.

The meaning of love changes as we grow older and we begin to look for more meaningful outputs from a relationship. Maybe we are not looking for rocks (read diamonds) and handbags and presents, but experiences together, companionship, intellectual stimulation- movies, books, sceneries, travels and time! 

And so while it looks like choices are growing narrower, the truth is we are becoming more discerning, more astute, more eagle eyed! We are no longer engaged with a beefy guy boasting about how many yokels he beat up, and a man as he grows up looses interest in a woman showing off about how many conquests she made and how feverishly she is perused or only how good her legs are. He wants someone he can chat to after a long hard day. 

Now as we grow 'up' and mature we want that fit where we long to be with a person the second he leaves us post a date. Someone we want to hear the voice of nearly always. And do believe me, this is indeed possible. Just have that staying waiting power. 

Shilpa Shetty might have despaired at not finding the man she would tie the knot with until she met Raj Kundra, but when she did find ‘The’ man, not only was she overjoyed that she had waited until the ‘right guy’ had arrived but felt that marrying in her late thirties was  lucky . “I’m way more mature, and when I look back at some of the things I did , or how possessive I have been in relationships I feel it gave me time to be more complete. And to make the right choice. I feel choices don't grow narrower, infact we get wiser to see things in a better perspective. It worked out brilliantly, the wait for the right person.”

My favorite movie character from Kung Fu Panda, Master Shifu,  was not wrong when he said inner peace is the key to solve all problems. The sense of equanimity that comes from self  assurance is what brings you to the realization that it shall all happen when it is meant to. Serendipity does exist, however fantastic it may sound, and you do come by someone with the right fit at the right time. Maybe not on your Venetian holiday as you had expected, sitting by you on the plane, but at the local gym. Who knows?

Spend your time doing things that improve you and don't occupy yourself with the waiting game, instead work at your self. It'll happen when its meant to. Just dont expect that you'll  look like a truck hit you , by letting yourself go, and then the man will unearth the inner you from under oodles of fat and bad skin. The packaging has to be kept in mind  too please!!!

The thing to avoid is to become desperate and compromise in the fear that you are growing older. Or make demands when someone does turn up. -That kills romance. 

You know you are in love when life is full of fascination, the mundane has new appeal, you feel kindly toward most people and are patient when people try your patience, and you’re smiling foolishly at yourself over happy thoughts of your partner and actually smelling the flowers. It makes you feel kind-of foolishly delighted, however old you are. 

I’ve seen so many friends find the right partner and enjoy a long happy relationship that culminates into marriage when they’ve just gone about their lives without making ‘finding’ a man the be all and end all of their lives. Fabulous things come to you when you are least occupied with them.

It’s a wonderful feeling and worth waiting for. And worth NOT compromising for. And worth working for. Worth watching the calories for and worth nourishing your brain for too. 

So let not despondency of age and fewer choices make you despair!

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Thursday, May 24, 2012

Shamita Shetty On Love, Marriage & Being Single


What Kind Of Man Is Shamita Waiting for to make wedding bells ring for her?


In a world where women tend to throw the towel in and compromise on their cherished dreams of what constitutes an idyllic marriage, Shamita Shetty has been stoically single. She prefers to play the waiting game and follow sister Shilpa Shetty. -To look for someone that meets all her expectations, someone like Raj Kundra –“he has all qualities of a good sincere man. The quintessential ‘Mr Nice Guy’ - Unfortunately he’s taken. Fortunately by my sister” she laughs.

     I’ve known the family closely, and also realized how important it is in the eyes of the   family  for the girls to settle down and create a solid family. And yet Shamita waits  patiently for the man who will sweep her off her feet. What is she looking for in her man?


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Monday, May 7, 2012

What Men Want


With women becoming more forward , not waiting for the phones to ring like in the days of yore, today’s woman goes for the kill and a Man is spoilt for choice. Those women that don't make the cut despite going for the kill, end up the wall flowers ‘sitting out the dances’ and are left wondering what they must lack. 
What is it that puts a man off or turns him on

What is the list of do’s and most importantly the don't’s and where are they missing out. Why is the fabulous romance they see in films and movies not brilliantly lighting up their lives? And this is evident from the many emails inundating my box asking me what puts a man off and how can they make a relationship happen in their lives. And so it was that I went about asking some suave savvy men what it was that put them off. Because my take is, that before a man is attracted he must not be repelled.
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Friday, April 27, 2012

Adventurous Marriage


Marrying Into Different Cultures


In India people are still not completely comfortable with inter religious marriages so marriages into different cultures might definitely take much adjustment. Even when one marries someone of the same background- differences in habit and viewpoints crop up. 

Speaking styles, styles of arguing, teasing, listening, child rearing, protocol with each others parents, monetary responsibilities, issues come into play when you belong to two different worlds -literally.  Georgetown University linguistics professor Deborah Tannen, author of I Only Say This Because I Love You: How the Way We Talk Can Make or Break Family says intercultural couples often attribute disagreements to other factors when the real cause is a difference in conversational style. 
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Saturday, April 14, 2012

The Pressure Of Sex


The Social Pressure Of Sex & Fear Of Missing The Bus

Is it just sex or is there some lingering fragrance of romance in our times? In this super-fast age, people might just have misunderstood their urgency to get into the wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am mode for romance and poetry. 

All he wants, right after finding a woman attractive, is to cut the chase and get on with it. Shout his 'prowess' between the sheets from the rooftops and hope like hell that that's what'll make the relationship tick. 

He's barely met you, you've not even shared a first kiss than the self acclaimed Lothario, speaking of how good he is in bed, starts making emands.

The magic of those lingering moments of togetherness, the brush of the hand that sends a flame down the chest, the exchange of a look, the lingering backward glance of longing- is nearly extinct.

Romance is not overt in the face, it’s in thoughts, gestures, actions and the eyes. It creeps upon you like a sensuous dream and stays with you hours after the moments of intimacy. 

Sex, infatuation, physicality are being confused with love, romance, intensity and depth, and all are different states of being. 

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Friday, April 6, 2012

Tulip Joshi On Live In Relationships



Tulip Joshi On the (ir) relevance of Marriage

A television chat show I participated in with a group of well known faces  set me thinking. The subject was the relevance of marriage in today’s age. Living in being the choice in our times. Is Marriage just man made institution that is pertinent in our times and should one legalize a relationship or should it be a free flowing trust based living in with one another, where you walk out if things don't pan out as you had planned.
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Friday, March 30, 2012

The Heady Magic Sexy Mix Called LOVE



 WHAT IS LOVE?
 We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, and who can understand our quirks, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. Criticisms & complaints & whines & excuses have no place in love! Falling in love with someone isn't always going to be easy... Anger... tears... laughter.... It's when you want to be together despite it all. That's when you truly love another.....
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Sunday, March 25, 2012

Kiss & Make Up !



Kiss and make up

It was two painful months away from a loved one. I don't recall whose fault it was, nor what were the details of the quarrel. So it surely was not so monumental! And yet I couldn’t call-up and bridge the void even though I missed my friend philosopher and guide. I was ‘happy’ to stay away and convince myself that I’m better off without, rather than suffer the ‘humiliation’ of ‘going back’ on my words of annoyance when we last met. So what stopped me really from bringing back the happy times? Yes, the fear of rejection. Yes , the ego thing that looms so large in our lives. It’s like a corpse we carry around with us that debilitates us from flying and soaring. It took a good friend to shake me out of my condescension and holler, “pick up the phone and be the bigger person”.
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Sunday, March 18, 2012

TRENDS STYLE FASHION ALL SPRING SUMMER & AUTUMN


FASHION FORWARD Nisha Jamvwal 

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You know, I've never been one to blindly follow trends and will always stress that one must be very mindful of body type and what suits one before blindly going for whats ‘in' and whats ‘out'. Having said that, living in the fast track, we are all keen observers of the delectable outpourings from the industrial Milan headquarters, the jaw dropping ready to wear Chanel shows year after year at the Grand Palais Paris, the dramatic and out of the envelope pageantry of Alexander Mc Queen or then the ever glamorous trend guru Miuccia Prada.

• The fashion world was left speechless with the nine-metre high, 240-tonne real iceberg that was the protagonist at the Karl Lagerfeld's autumn 2010 catwalk's stunning extravaganza with fringed wool shifts, exquisite sculpted knits, crystal-edged chiffon cocktail dresses, Yeti boots and faux fur-trimmed coats (of course real fur is super passé). The handbag was the hero as usual for Chanel, with Perspex ice cube shape in that trademark quilting. This show did not disappoint after last season's gigantic French barn with a seven piece orchestra that rose behind the curtain at the Chanel Show. 


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Thursday, March 15, 2012

'What I Desire In A Man' shares super Hot Model Dipannita Sharma


What Are The Qualities A Woman Looks For In A man   Nisha JamVwal 

What does a super hot, super gorgeous, film actor and model look for in a man when she wants to give her all to him, marry him, pamper him and be his forever?

Yes I'm sure most men would wish the fate of Dilsher, who got the woman of his dreams, when Dipaninita Sharma, the babe who has it all, said 'Yes' to his proposal. What did it all take?

When the lissom supermodel Dipannita Sharma got married she broke many hearts. What did it take for this man to take that giant leap into wedlock. An important step in a woman’s life, especially one who is an aspiring actor working her way into Bollywood.  

What did Dipannita see in a man to make him THE one?
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Saturday, March 10, 2012

Nisha JamVwal Parties with Rati Agnihotri, Madhur Bhandarkar & Tanuj Virvani


Nisha JamVwalNisha JamVwal – Tanuj Virvani’s ‘Coming Out Party’ for his Debut ‘Love You Soniyo’

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Nisha Celebrates With Rati
Nisha Celebrates With Rati
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The World’s Longest Sit-Down Lunch with Nisha JamVwal

The World’s Longest Sit-Down Lunch with Nisha JamVwal

There are sit-down cuisine’s, and there are sit-down cuisines. But this one had to be seen to be believed! Curving around the porch of the very artsy Grand Hyatt, an uncharacteristic nip in the afternoon air, Bombay buzzed with gourmet Melbourne fare. It was the celebration of the 20th anniversary of the Melbourne         Food and Wine Festival, and the State of Victoria is celebrating it with panache. Wow, the music pulsated with the four course cuisine, nearly to orchestral precision, like it was all a choreographed ballet!







Yes, I was late. Call it the juggle of handling my multitasking Bombay life and travel (am I sounding like I’m complaining?- I enjoy every second of the razors edge life). I jumped into the very heady red, with zucchini fritters and mozzarella, and was only able to linger and savour my second course, third and then the fourth. What struck me as special, was it was so light and chic, and preplated artistically. Flying in from a Delhi champagne art-do, into an orange, very Issey Miyake-ish, diamond sun dress and a favourite pink and orange AND red hat, I was seated right next to the Premier Louise, or should I say The Honourable Louise Asher MP. She was the official host of the evening, and the lunch was to introduce Melbourne, for which two chefs from across the world came together to prepare the light artistic cuisine – and I detected a distinct Thai and Vietnamese influence!

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A Magical Evening With Me At ZOYA

 Nisha JamVwal: A Magical Evening With Me At ZOYA


Nisha JamVwal on twitter @nishajamvwal

Nisha JamVwalTalk about exotic lives! Nisha JhaVwal epitomizes the lifestyles of the rich and famous and is constantly jetting off around the world having seriously incredible experiences. So I am thrilled that she has agreed to document some of them for you here (exclusively on MissMalini.com!)




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Capturing the Beauty of the White Peacock With Grandeur and Surreal Poise in Their Latest Offering

Nisha JamVwalHosting a champagne cocktail in Delhi also means a walk down memory lane. I am surrounded by friends who look the same from high school and college, and yet I feel so different. I remember an introverted and brooding ingénue, that was me. So different to the exuberant person that people see today.



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I am looking at the girls from school, lovely, attractive and assured sashaying through the evening looking at jewelery that is being celebrated at Zoya, the diamond destination of Delhi.



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Nisha JamVwal – Party Whirl


Nisha JamVwal – Party Whirl 2011 – 2012, Trends, High-points & More


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2011 to 2012: Parties, Yachts, Flights, Mountains & Palaces…
But Bombay is Bombay and holds its own in the world of extravagance and drama. It has been special since I came back from Paris. The most beautiful of experiences eclipse its somewhat lackluster infrastructure, its lack of beautiful parks and buildings – the people and the warmth and the chutzpah make it one of the wonderful-est cities of the world.
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Wednesday, February 22, 2012

'I Am In Love' #attraction & #sex Don't Promise Longivity

Being In Love With Being In Love  



Valentines day, Romance, Lust, Passion, Attraction, Cards & Gifts Don't Mean Love & Longevity


It's all such a production and romance is in the air when attractive people are around. Romance is so heady, like a drug, an elixir. Nothing that quite works like a shot in the arm and enervates you to bound to every destination and skip to work as does love. I think the world is in love with the idea of being in love, cards, romance, of the invigorating adrenalin rush and excitement, that makes you want to be your slimmest and best-est, that motivates success, makes you want to jog, to write poetry , to sing.

In the film 'Student of the Year' Alia Bhatt is 'In Love' with Varun Dhawan.  They are rich, attractive, and quite obviously must and should and have to date and conduct a romance!!!


Nothing packages love, sex and romance quite as effectively as Bollywood, and makes a lot of people fantasize love, romance and marriage. But please do remember that real life is different. There are many real issues to consider before getting together for a lifetime, or even just moving in............

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Saturday, February 11, 2012

Actor Lillete Dubey on Being Super Mum


Three strong working women living under the same roof. A mother and two daughters. All opinionated dazzling, feisty. Any other country and they’d all have apartments apart but that's the beauty of India, they live in the same home and work it magically. They all get the best of belonging to the same world of glamour and celebrity. How does it work? Especially with Lillete and Ira working in the same play that debuted recently.

Interestingly that same play- Tracy Letts’ darkly comic drama ‘August: Osage County’ -the key issues dealt with is Mothers and Daughters, who verbally and physically abuse one another rather than exhibit kindness - their tough-love and power-play. 


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Saturday, February 4, 2012

Are You Taking your Friend for Granted?

Stop Taking Your Friends For granted Before it is too Late

"Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art...It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival." C.S. Lewis

Nothing is more enjoyable to me than an movie evening and dinner with a close friend. But then this may not be the close friend’s idea of ‘fun’. This I discovered quite to my surprise when I was ‘dumped’ four times in a row, all the time realizing my ‘friend’ had chosen more ‘important’,  options over a tête à tête with me.  I was already in her life so she needed to make more 'conquests'. 


You see, when she’d made the ‘date’ , that evening had been event-less for her. But when more ‘important’ 'socially consequential' occasions presented themselves she felt I’d be there anyway in her life. Waiting. 

The 'social' occasions would not come again, and along with them the chance to move up the social ladder and create more relevance for her social 'station'. Funnily enough, I had instead declined my parties and dinners for that very night, in the desire to spend quality time with this same friend.

Before her divorce she had been engaging, attentive, and a real friend whom I had enjoyed the company of. For the sake of her company. 

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Nisha JamVwal Roller Coaster Called Life