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Yes! I did have tears in
my eyes right through the tough fight that got Mary Kom the bronze at the first time women's boxing event that
had been introduced at the London Olympic 2012. Every Indian was rooting for
her, most partial to her win, above all other competitors. What makes Mary so special? So why is the movie 'Mary Kom' so happily glossing over the main fight she went through- the Olympics?
I have over the years been moved by Mary Kom's story, her chats with me, her fortitude and her ability to laugh. From a tribal
community of north-eastern state of Manipur- epitomizes a woman who
despite many odds came up triumphant. She was fighting opponents who weighed 54
kg, four inches taller and yet she did win a bronze. She works very hard for
every single win she’s achieved. But so does her entire family. The take out is
that there are stronger people in a competitive world, but hard work backed by
a supportive family give you that x-factor that makes you a winner and a hero
in life.
Click below to read entire article...........
The more successful you
are, more often than not, the greater is the support and love you’ve had from a
cheering encouraging family behind you. In Mary’s case -silent, strong,
supportive and understated. On the
flipside, family that criticize you, telling themselves that they are doing it
for your good, nag and vitiate the atmosphere only pull down the winner spirit
and create fears and insecurities for a person who might be successful
otherwise.
“After marriage, which in the crucial turning point especially for women, I wasn’t sure I would be allowed to pursue my dream. To my utter surprise my journey received even more encouragement , and unexpected love and permission from my in laws and husband to move on with my career.”
Marriage and
motherhood was indeed a challenge but it
turned out to be Mary’s strength. “Time brought forth greater obstacles when my
lovely, naughty kids Rechungvar and Khupneivar came into my life. My husband saw
to them and he never let me feel for a moment that my absence has done harm to
our family. There were greater responsibilities, expenses and demands with motherhood
from every angle. Even my father did not believe in me at this time. However,
my family’s love and support helped me tide even this phase to reach my dream. They
filled all the gaps .”
While the journey has
been tough for Mary, Onler stayed at home and catered to their twin sons while
Mary Kom travelled the world trying to bring laurels so that after a two-year
sabbatical that saw her start a family, Mary Kom came back even stronger, to win the World Championship twice. “I
carried on with the encouragement and help of family and friends.”
“No matter what your
career - competition has become so tough- the only thing that matters is
success and only a very few can achieve success in a competitive environment .
I am proud to see that after my wins, many people from my native Manipur are
embracing boxing as their career. We must
excel- my family’s love and support helped me to reach for my dream”
says Mary with a fire in her eyes from her win, and desire to get the gold at
Rio in 2016.
Every single Indian prays for this dynamic lady who packs so much power in her tiny frame, to win the gold one day.
Yes! I did have tears in
my eyes right through the tough fight that got Mary Kom the bronze at the first time women's boxing event that
had been introduced at the London Olympic 2012. Every Indian was rooting for
her, most partial to her win, above all other competitors. What makes Mary so special? So why is the movie 'Mary Kom' so happily glossing over the main fight she went through- the Olympics?
The palpable vulnerability & power of a dream comes through
brilliantly in #PriyankaChopra's
frustration, pain, anger, angst through her performance as and in the Movie Mary Kom -
seldom did I see Priyanka Chopra in
the performance, I almost always saw Mary Kom. After having met and known #MaryKom - and I will share excerpts of my conversations with you. I
do feel that Sanjay Leela
Bhansali has spun a winner- but I wasn't as gripped in the
first half as in the second, personal vignettes & development of her
personal struggle & lack of nutrition which I happen to know of, her angst
& strife need to have been somewhat more strongly communicated!
And yet I
was moved by the fighter, the mother, the winner MC Mary Kom- Kudos @Priyanka,
#MaryKom #SanjayLeelaBhansali & #Omungkumar. My
favorite after Onler & Priyanka is the Coach, the understated yet powerful
actor Thapa. Onler's story & his personal sacrifices come through
beautifully, where men support their women to pursue a dream- that is truly
what #Onler did,
it is not even slightly exaggerated. Eventually I do wish the #Olympic story
had been fleshed out better.
I have over the years been moved by Mary Kom's story, her chats with me, her fortitude and her ability to laugh. From a tribal
community of north-eastern state of Manipur- epitomizes a woman who
despite many odds came up triumphant. She was fighting opponents who weighed 54
kg, four inches taller and yet she did win a bronze. She works very hard for
every single win she’s achieved. But so does her entire family. The take out is
that there are stronger people in a competitive world, but hard work backed by
a supportive family give you that x-factor that makes you a winner and a hero
in life.Click below to read entire article...........
The more successful you
are, more often than not, the greater is the support and love you’ve had from a
cheering encouraging family behind you. In Mary’s case -silent, strong,
supportive and understated. On the
flipside, family that criticize you, telling themselves that they are doing it
for your good, nag and vitiate the atmosphere only pull down the winner spirit
and create fears and insecurities for a person who might be successful
otherwise.
Mary Kom's journey is the
stuff dreams and movies are made of. And the movie , while lacking in personal fleshing out of her angst, brings somewhat to you the journey.
The journey to the top of women's world boxing has been an arduous one for Mary. Inspired by Manipuri boxer Dingko Singh, Mary Kom gave up needle-work and books for boxing gloves. But she had to hide her interests from her family until her victory in the Manipur state women's boxing championship in 2000. “When I started, my male friends would say it is not a woman’s sport. But I say if men can do it then why not women.
The journey to the top of women's world boxing has been an arduous one for Mary. Inspired by Manipuri boxer Dingko Singh, Mary Kom gave up needle-work and books for boxing gloves. But she had to hide her interests from her family until her victory in the Manipur state women's boxing championship in 2000. “When I started, my male friends would say it is not a woman’s sport. But I say if men can do it then why not women.
My parents soon acquiesced
to my request and let me follow my dreams- they even met all my needs even
though the means were difficult. Boxing is not easy nor inexpensive. There were
times things became very difficult.” If growing up in the strife-torn state of
Manipur was hard, the road to the London Games was much-much harder.
“After marriage, which in the crucial turning point especially for women, I wasn’t sure I would be allowed to pursue my dream. To my utter surprise my journey received even more encouragement , and unexpected love and permission from my in laws and husband to move on with my career.”
Onler played a crucial
role in her growth and time and again Mary Kom gives him the credit-
“The hardest part of my
training is being away from my kids, even though I should not worry with a
husband like Onler and in-laws who have been so supportive in helping me manage
my home and my life as mother, wife and daughter. Onler is always there to look out at all their
needs.”
While the journey has
been tough for Mary, Onler stayed at home and catered to their twin sons while
Mary Kom travelled the world trying to bring laurels so that after a two-year
sabbatical that saw her start a family, Mary Kom came back even stronger, to win the World Championship twice. “I
carried on with the encouragement and help of family and friends.”
The silent and supportive
Onler pushed her to achieve her dreams. “Everyone thinks she made it because of
my support, but I am just doing my ‘homework’.
It is all about understanding, respecting each other’s feelings and
being there in times of crunch, which might not need your presence but concern.
I can cook and wash and do everything because my love for her makes me. This is
what we vowed for.
“Love is patient, love is
kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it
is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of
wrongs. Love does not delight in controlling the one you love and suppressing your
wife, but rejoicing in her triumph. It always protects, always trusts, always
hopes..... always” shares Onler.
“Be sincere towards your goal always, work hard and never give up.
Remember God works in disguise.”
Every single Indian prays for this dynamic lady who packs so much power in her tiny frame, to win the gold one day.
Nisha JamVwal
Written For & Published in Asian Age & Deccan Chronicle
nishajamvwal@gmail.com
What an inspiring one!!! Mary is a super inspirational story...aftr having kids she had to participate in higher weight category and still came came with a medal... HATS OFF!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteShe is the real life hero! Need to see more like these instead of the constant crap news about "saifeena" and other insignificant useless people !!
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