Exploitative Women In A Situation Of Bitter Divorce

DON'T USE THE LAW TO EXPLOIT THAT ESTRANGED SPOUSE, AFTER ALL YOU ONCE LOVED HIM/HER

In a response to my blog, a man named Joy recently wrote of terrible atrocities meted out to him by his ex wife, asking for advise. 


I was shocked and disturbed to read of his peril but also did not find it at all odd nor out of the ordinary. Often , and with greater regularity I see today that men are ridden rough shod over by women who manipulate the law to garner sympathy and 'run away' with wealth and property , that is not their entitlement calling it stree dhan or even maintenance. Or then with the children , using them as bargaining tools to negotiate more money and property.

The Grand Hydrabad Wedding- PART I- Karan Johar & Rani Mukherjee Judge The Sangeet

Destination weddings to exotic game reserves and beaches, birthday 
merrymaking on islands, anniversary revelry with guests flown down to Switzerland,  girlie pyjama parties on luxury Boats . India’s going ultra luxe. 

Shilpa Shetty on Love, Sex, Late Marriage & Patience!

Am I Leaving It Until Too Late to Get Married?

A long time friend , Shilpa is one of the more real, from the heart people I know. A good friend, loyal and affectionate, she didn't find the right guy to marry for the longest time. 

Have you noticed, especially in India, how girls get panicky when they grow older and worry about being left behind on the shelf? Women all over the world actually begin to despair. 






And friends don't help with comments like "Oh you're not married? Haven't you found anyone you liked? The later it gets the more tough it gets" You often end up thinking 'other girls don't seem to have a problem finding the man of their dreams, why not me? Some women even get married multiple times, and seem to have little or no problem finding men to marry, why not me?"

Women worry and it only makes things worse. It is a viscous cycle where you begin the compromise game and get frustrated and unhappy. It's probably a better idea to get busy with your work, travel and friends than fret. To be independent makes you enjoy life more and become a more fun person to be with in the first place. And trust me, it's better to be single than trapped in a suffocating compromise of a marriage. 

If you've got needs and desires, better to get yourself a partner, than take the plunge for the long term without being sure in your heart. Since when was sex dependent on marriage? 

While Shilpa Shetty was somewhat concerned after her relationship with her Bollywood fiance went kaput, she just went about doing her stuff, working and traveling, when VOILA! out of the blue she met Raj during her 'Big Brother' stint in London. Sparks flew and the rest is history. 

Shilpa Shetty might have despaired at not finding the man she would tie the knot with after breaking her heart in Bollywood with actor Akshay Kumar, but when she met Raj Kundra she just knew this is it. Not only ws she overjoyed at finding ‘The’ man' she was glad that she had waited until the ‘right guy’ had arrived. 

It was only then that she realized that marrying in her thirties was the best thing she could have done . None of us realize in our hurry and panic that late marriages give us more time to grow, be independent find ourselves and make the most of life. 

“I’m way more mature, and when I look back at some of the things I did , or how possessive I have been in relationships I feel marrying late gave me time to be more complete. To see things in a better perspective. It worked out brilliantly, to marry late.”

They say thirty is the new twenty! 
That it’s obsolete to marry in ones early twenties.
 I also feel that there is so much to achieve , so much to savour in this new world of opportunity and experience. To marry young is to invite more responsibility at too young an age. And so many people like Shilpa find that to tie the ‘knot’ just after ones education is like putting a stop to a life of growth and piling up oneself with an existence of responsibility and duty that limits personal development.

Is Living in More Sexy Than Getting Married?

Is Living In With A Lover More Sexy Than Marrying To Get A Husband?

Angela Jolie and Brad Pitt are thinking of got married after years of living together. Why? With half a dozen kids and six years of living in - better late than never, or then not so? 

Quite a feat looking at the long list of live in relationships ending in break ups where the two people who were once inseparable go their own (bitter) ways. And this brings me to the entire premise of live in relationships, should one? Or then should one tie the knot and go for the conjugal bond?

My very personal opinion is that if you’re looking for long term commitment then it may not be a great idea to live in without putting your stock into the marital union which spells long term union. 

There is no such thing really as ‘trial marriage’. You can live together, have sex, put your dirty clothes in the same washing machine and share the same room but that does not a marriage make. It is not even a preparation for marriage. 

It is in my opinion a convenience of sorts without the attendant responsibilities. The live in couple seldom feel secure in the relationship and the desire to create palatable solutions to work toward a future together is absent. 

TEN WINNER STYLE TIPS By Nisha JamVwal

Seductive Japan

Seductive Japan

In 1993 I spent several months in Japan at a little town called Ibaraki and entered a new world of custom, thought and life. More so when I visited Hakone, Mount Fuji et al in the course of a lyrical, beautiful stay with Sachiko, my flatmate  from Los Angeles, and her mother, Keiko Hattori. 

They  gave me a Japanese name, 'Sakura'!

Their word for cherry blossom - a most treasured flower, in their affection and desire to make me part of their beautiful family.

When A Couple Fight! Katrina Kaif & Salman Khan Aren't the only ones who parted ways!

Solving That Battle & Making your Relationship Work By Nisha JamVwal

There was a major learning for me this week, that only a couple in a marriage can work things out for themselves. In my zealousness I had felt protective about the closer spouse from among a couple. Only later did I realize that taking sides and ‘helping’, however well meant, can topple the apple cart and fan already tenuous flames.

A couple must be left to find their own balance.

The Grand Phinda Safari With Nisha JamVwal

The Grand Phinda Safari.....

Sitting in the charter en route South Africa’s special jewel, Phinda, I saw my first African elephant, the first of what was going to be a very special relationship with these imposing animals of the wild. Part of the Getty family, our hosts, Cecilia and Pierre, pointed out my first giraffe who actually came and nuzzled to me, a moment etched in my memory forever, even as I was clambering onto the land rover with the help of Hendrick, our ranger, guide and Bush philosopher.

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Being Friends After Parting Ways By Nisha JamVwal

CAN YOU BE FRIENDS AFTER PARTING WITH A LOVER

Tabloid has it that Deepika Padukone, when asked who she would rate higher, if she had to, a beau or her father, answered it would be her father. At least she's sure he's there for keeps. A sign of the times wouldn’t you say? Relationships these days seem to come with an increasing factor of transience and fragility. 

What I'm ruminating on  then, is whether breakups can be about 'parting as friends' or, even if  initially  acrimonious can, at some future,  outgrow the raw  hurt, resentment, betrayal, pain and the blame gambit, to remember the good and for the sake of that, find a semblance of friendship? 

Nisha JamVwal At Home By Tanvi Saraf For Marie Claire

NISHA JAMVWAL -SNEAK PEAK INTO HER SPACE!

A Portrait of Nisha JamVwal By Sanjiv Sonpimpre

There is a slight aura of mystery about Nisha JamVwal’s Mumbai-based home. As we talk prior to the shoot, she says she’s a private person and very few people have had access to her home. “It’s an extension of my personality, a window to my story and I don't like to have people in this private space mostly.”

MILAN MILAN MILAN

This roof's a maze of spires and pinnacles 

                                            Casting a tracery of shade as I stand

  Transfixed in the arched doorway

 I balance  On slate tiles to peer up 

at the gargoyles  Poised to swoop

from a belfry or gable.  Marble 

saints look down on the same Piazza 

Pious tyrants crossed on the way to Mass:

  Visconti, Sforza, Napoleon, Mussolini.

Getting Out Of A Violent Relationship

Violence & Abuse Is Like a Drug, It holds You Supressed & Captive

Like a Trapped Animal

You Cannot Run

You Cannot Breathe

You Cannot Live

If you are in a bad relationship , and you are unable to get away, nearly like some terrible binding rope, you cant live without it and you cannot live with it situation, some awful drug which has you in its clutches, then slowly work it out of your system.

Dress Your Best When You Feel Your Worst

For me mother’s formula endures when you are at your lowest - look your best when you feel your worst!

 If you can’t make it, fake it! Impossible though it sounds, when the world just seems to have crashed around you, somewhere along the way your cells get the program and it works better than the erstwhile movie tragedienne’s demeanor. 


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Bonding & Cementing A Friendship

Don’t forget to smell the roses while there’s still some summer

Bonding over shopping, a game, a walk, a French lesson, just about anything cements a relationship with that special connection which a forced social introduction can never do. 

We all know it all. But something about metros gets us inhibited. It’s not the sophiscate urbane thing to bond without a social interaction, beyond barriers and ‘classes’.

Be A Gentleman

Gentle reminder to be Gentlemenlike !

I walked up at a recent dinner to the table of the ex traffic commissioner's to say hello, and after the initial hello , fully expectant that he'd stand, waited to start the conversation! So you can imagine my shock when he continued to sit most indolently, while I on my part chatted, inadvertently waiting for him to stand! Perhaps he must've felt that being the ex commissioner absolved him of good manners?


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‘It’s the last Shangri-la’ My Journies In Bhutan By Nisha JamVwal

Sparkling Silent Bhutan

NishaJamvwal For someone who has “roller coaster schedules and tough deadlines — that make for a madding crowd my trip to mountainous Bhutan was a much needed-escape. High in the Himalayas, it’s unspoiled and pure. Nothing prepared me for this last Shangri-la on earth. The customs, friendly people and deeply-held beliefs was therapeutic. Monasteries & mystery

Aamir Khan's Secrets & Confidences By Nisha JamVwal

Chatting to Aamir 
@nishjamvwal 


BOLLYWOOD’S CURRENT 

GOD

'Delhi Belly' is the ultimate culture shock for Aamir's fans I'm told. On his way to dinner , the script was discovered amidst a pile of unread scripts almost accidently. And the next thing he knew he was producing the first film that might forever eradicate the ultra clean image of his production channel. And he's not complaining. Infact I'd say he's enjoying the change. 

But then that's what Aamir's USP is, change, experiment and exploration.

Time for Love & Intimate Bonds

That Magic Flash of Discovery that we've discovered A True Friend-Time. 

Where is it all gone?


I don't seem to find traces of any of it all?  Here I am feeling I’m on a crazy roller-coaster ride whizzing with its swoops and panic ridden thrills - and a formidable to do list extending into the near and far future. Mundane and ambitious. The to do list reeling under it all.

Today here I am, doing what I wanted to. 
People say I’ve got it all- success with its attendant props and paraphernalia.  An accomplished wish list   (almost).         
And ‘friends’!!!

Warren Buffet Breakfast with Nisha JamVwal

WARREN BUFFET GIVES HIS WALLET TO NISHA

One would have expected much jargon and involved financial plans and philosophies from Warren Buffet. So I went to the private closed door breakfast do expecting it to be a ‘gods best friend speaks from a pedestal to normal mortal’s’ breakfast do. What transpired was delightful and contrary. I met a warm, irreverently humorous, charming man teeming with thoughts and ideas, who seemed to embody a magical enthusiasm, a man whose child within hadn’t died. A man who had touched my life with his infectious excitement at being alive.

The question and answer interaction was even more inspirational, I came out charged with ideas and thoughts. “I jump out of bed and tap dance to work every morning, life excites me” he said. ‘For me there is no destination, it’s just the journey. Life is like an unfinished painting.” IT brought to mind what Aamir Khan’s character in Three Idiots propounds,

Intimate Sexy Yacht Parties By Nisha JamVwal

Party Trend By Nisha Jamvwal 
Published In L'Official

Bombay the epicentre of trends in India, reinvents its party mantras all the time. Mid Air fashion shows, exotic Island parties and now Yacht parties that are the trend. The luxury yacht scene, so far the bastion of the affluent and glamorous across the globe, has arrived (in India too), for pleasure & adventure, a statement of uber luxury beyond the 'been there done that 'luxury hotels and private jets. For me the expanse of the horizon, the sky’s vastness above, the lap of waves make for that inimitable experience at once exhilarating, calming & liberating,


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